A license to hate

I wonder how many stories have been started this week about the terror attacks in Paris, and then deleted before they were ever finished because they may have offended someone? I have done that. I have been very careful of what I say.

But what I am not going to delete is this: Christians have a message to tell the world, and it is time that we do it. Over 800 years ago, Christians decided to force Christianity upon people by the sword. Then we tried hellfire and damnation. None of those worked. Somewhere along the line Jesus was lost, and it is up to this generation to find Him.

We have just come through the Christmas season and we have sung songs about the declaration of the angels: Peace on earth! Goodwill to men. Go Tell it on the Mountain, that Jesus Christ was born.

Every day I speak against injustice toward women. And I am here to tell you that at the root of all these religious attacks are how women are viewed. When a nation and a people and a religion can hate over one-half of the world, that hate extends to anybody else they choose. It gives license. That license to discriminate against women is found in churches, in mosques, in temples, and on the street. Christians need to examine their hearts and accept complete equality for women in churches and in their own homes. The concept of male headship, which is also seen in putting burqas and scarves on women, has no place in Christianity.

If American churches would lead the way, change would happen. As it is, the majority of religions in the United States today will not allow women full equality. Until we do, we give license. We cannot say that we are different, until we resolve our feelings about male headship, in light of the actions and teachings of Christ.

The reality is that most Christians cannot condemn this teaching against women because, they, too, believe it and teach it. However, they are still leaving Jesus out of Christianity. Jesus is our standard, and since Jesus did not commit women to husbands, or to males, and because Jesus did not deny women anything based on their being women, then we cannot in good stewardship of the gospel, do so either.

When we are willing to withhold the complete God from women (which we do when we deny that women can serve God in every capacity), that is hate. It is also obstructing the message of Christ.

Will you speak up for women? Will you determine that people will know that we are different?

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Equality events to watch for in 2015

I am excited to announce that January 15, 2015 will be the beginning of a new venture between Jocelyn Andersen and me. On that date we will reveal Equality Junction, where ideas and people meet to discuss women’s equality.

Our discussion forum is up and running now. We have begun Christian Women Today open group facebook page. We welcome you to join our facebook page and commenting on the forum.

We will be listing egalitarian resources.  If you have an egalitarian book you would recommend, please let us know so we can add it to our site. We do not sell books, all we do is point readers to resources. Knowing that there are few websites and almost no Christian bookstores where egalitarian books can be found all in one place, we hope to make titles and authors visible to those who are looking for resources.

Let your friends know. Send us an email at equalityjunction@gmail.com. We want to be your source.

This past month, I

  1. Sent three letters to leaders. Did not hear back from them, but that does not stop my efforts.
  2. gave away many of my books to those I talk with about women’s equality.
  3. spoke at the Northern Colorado Christians for Biblical Equality Chapter meeting via Skype.
  4. worked on Equality Junction website with articles and books, etc.
  5. wrote a Bible Study for Gender Equality called Reclaiming Equality: A 5-week plan for reclaiming our newbirth right. This Bible study will be available free on Equality Junction.

I want to thank all my readers for reading my blog, and also thank you who have just come across this. I work every day without fail for women’s equality. Together we are all building the net.

Calling myself ‘the street evangelist for women’s equality,’ I am speaking up. Will you join me?

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The Christmas Gift

Thirty years is a long time to wait to see what your Christmas Gift will actually do. Two thousand years ago, the Christmas Gift came with no instructions but with lots of promise. Kings journeyed far in order to see for themselves this Gift, and to bring gifts of their own in honor of this birth.

The people wanted a mortal savior, but their hero arrived as a baby and with his own life in danger. What could he do to help them against their enemy? They expected their savior to be a man among men and they would rally behind him. They wanted another David with a bag of stones.

Jesus did not have a bag of stones.

Suppose one of you has a friend who comes at night when the house has been closed and the doors have been locked, and everybody is sound asleep. He knocks on the door. He tells you that someone has just arrived at his house from a long journey and he needs some bread to feed them. Will you tell him that it is late at night and that the kids are in bed sound asleep, and to quit knocking at your door because he will wake up the whole household?

No, he gets up to stop the racket of the knocking, not because it is his friend at the door, but because he wants the knocking to stop.

The Christmas Gift says “I am not that way. Just ask and it will be given, seek, and you will find it, knock and it will be opened. What man is there among you, when his son shall ask him for a loaf, will give him a stone?”

“Therefore, however you want people to treat you, so treat them; for this is the Law and the Prophets” (paraphrased Luke 11:5-10 & Matt 7:5-12)

Father, we have traveled far and we are knocking at your door. We have been at the church house, but the doors are closed, and the people are inside sound asleep. We are your children and we are asking for a loaf. We have had the stones. We’ve been turned away by men for centuries, and now we are standing at Your door. Hungry for the bread and for a place at your table.

Hear our knock, our Father.

Will you join us in praying to the Christmas Gift for the whole loaf?

(reposted from the past two Christmases)

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The real meaning of Christmas

Years ago I was watching television while wrapping Christmas gifts. There was a television show about the ‘true meaning of Christmas.’ They promoted the popular idea of giving gifts because the wise men brought gifts to the baby Jesus. I knew they were wrong, but truthfully, I did not know the true meaning of Christmas.

It would be many years before I learned the true meaning of Christmas, and it would happen at the last place you would expect to learn about Christ. I learned the true meaning of Christmas after attending a mosque.

The Missions Division of the Baptist General Convention of Texas took us on a trip to a mosque in Richardson, Texas, near Dallas. The imam met us, asked us to remove our shoes, and then he showed us the shelf where we were to place our shoes. We were led past the wash room where Muslim men wash their hands, elbows, feet, face and nostrils before going into the main worship room.

We women had the option of wearing a headscarf and I did like the rest. We sat on the floor while the imam told us about their worship. He pointed to the upper room where he said the women chose to worship. He said they could worship with the men, but they chose to climb the stairs and privately worship there. The women also had to perform ritual washing of their body parts, separately from the men, of course.

The main worship area was a long rectangular room. The imam pointed out that the room was long so that it made the front row longer and, therefore, more men could be on the front row. He said they all wanted to be on the front row because it showed their devotion to Allah. He made his arms into wings, and he laughed as he showed us how they would nudge the other men out of the way with their elbow, and make their way to the front.

On the wall was the 99 attributes of Allah. My supervisor, who is a Christian Arab, said that none of the attributes said that Allah is love.

After it was over, we thanked the imam and put our shoes back on, we women took off our scarves, and we all climbed onto the bus to go back to our offices. One supervisor who was also a preacher (as they all were) threw his hand up high in the air and said:

“Thank God for Jesus!”

That is when I learned the true meaning of Christmas.

The Jewish people looked for a Messiah like King David. A powerful leader who would take down their enemies, make Jerusalem Jewish again, and who would die a mortal death, as all humans do. The scriptures promised them a savior and they anticipated his arrival.

What they got was not what they expected. Instead of a physical warrior who would defeat the Romans, they got a spiritual warrior who, instead of turning his eyes upon their enemies, turned his eyes upon their relationship to God. In particular, the laws they had expanded to make life miserable, and then the artful and deceitful ways they had of getting around those laws. Read Matthew 23 to see what Jesus had to say about their spiritual condition.

Jesus came to free us from the rigmarole that man had bound God with. All those laws didn’t mean anything (Matthew 23, Amos 5:21-24) because men had found ways to get around them. Jesus told them to love God with all their heart, and to love their fellow man. When love is the motivator, our worship of God, and helping our fellowman, will take on a different meaning. We will feed the hungry, help the poor, heal the sick, treat others as we want to be treated, and give the Good News to everyone.

Instead of being like Jesus, we still desire to make laws for Christians, especially laws about what women can and cannot do, and I wonder if Jesus would have turned his eyes upon us.

The true meaning of Christmas is the freedom that Jesus gave us. No more rigmarole such as the way to wash your hands before eating, and not working on the Sabbath – things that had absolutely no spiritual significance in them. In doing away with these things, Jesus said: “My yoke is easy and my load is light.” Matthew 11:30.

Thank God for Jesus!


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Advent – should women be looking for the Christ child, or a husband?

(First published 2010)

Sunday is the first Sunday of Advent, and churches will light the Hope Advent candle and the church begins its countdown until the Christ child is born on Christmas Day.

Many faith denominations do not light Advent candles, but almost all churches spend the month of December with Cantatas, children’s Christmas plays, and so forth. The song “A Baby Changes Everything” was popular one year and Don and I heard it sung at two different churches.

But do women really need Jesus?

Listen to what a man commented on my blog, “The man answers to God for the actions of his wife and children.”

Whoa! Did you catch that? How can a man answer to God for the actions of his wife and children? For that to happen we must find scriptures to support the following beliefs in the Bible:

1. That a husband is divine as he stands as a mediator between his wife and kids and God. The husband would have to be divine because it is a divine Jesus who stands as the mediator for the husband. (Job 9:32-35) Surely women wouldn’t need a human standing before God for her, would she? (1Timothy 2:5-6).

2. That the wife cannot speak for herself because she is an incomplete human being, incapable of coming before God for herself, and who has no hope outside her husband. (Romans 3:22).

3. That children are not complete human beings capable of having a relationship with God. (Acts 2:17).

There are no scriptures to support a man answering to God for the actions of his wife. In fact, each scripture reference that I have given says completely the opposite of what the person who wrote the comment said. Oh, but he is just one person. Nobody really believes like that, do they?

Cindy Kunsman can tell you that some seminarians believe it. Several years ago she was invited to a conference at a Southern Baptist affiliated seminary. Cindy says “Several young men asked how it was that I believed that they would not stand before God…to give an account and to intercede for their wives…These (young men) were seminary students.”

Advent – should women be looking for the Christ child, or for a husband?

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Sermons and violence

This post is about pastors’ responsibility in perpetuating violence against women.

It is Saturday morning and pastors across America are mentally rehearsing their sermons for Sunday morning. What is your pastor rehearsing? A Thanksgiving message this week most likely. We have much to be thankful for and it is good that one day a year we thank God for our blessings.

Thanksgiving is an American and Canadian holiday, and Thursday most of the world will not sit down to a feast with family and friends.

Many women and girls will not be able to sit down at all because their bodies have been abused, mutilated, or they are dead by the hand of some male family member or friend.

It is these women I want to talk about today.

It is the part your pastor plays in perpetuating this violence against women in America and abroad.

It is obvious, but it must be said anyway: Whenever women are told that they must submit to their husbands, then it is up to the husband to decide just how far she must submit. No church can limit him because they endued him with that power. Male headship means male rule. Whatever he rules, she must do – or be in violation of the Bible, or so they are lead to believe.

Ephesians 5 addresses physical abuse against women, but pastors will not admit that. In the society of 2000 ago, these women were being abused by their husbands who believed they had the right to do so. The letter from Paul was that they were to love their wives and to treat their wives like they would treat their own bodies. Don’t withhold food, clothing or protection from your wife. You would not hit yourself, so don’t beat her up. Wives, stay with your husbands because they are now Christians, and I am telling them to treat you better.

We teach our women that they must submit because the Bible says so. Then we take that message to mission fields all across the world. Submit to your husbands. The bible says so. We enslave them all over again. Instead of the words of freedom through Jesus Christ, we give them bondage to a culture that sees women only as sex and use objects. And we are not far from that culture ourselves.

Sex trafficking is a big ‘cause’ in American churches right now. That is like spraying water on a weed to kill it. The real reason sex trafficking is proliferating is attitudes against women. Women have always been devalued, and Religion has not stepped up and valued women. They can’t when they deny women full equality. So they make noises and send money and teach that women are to submit.

The World Health Organization says that 30% of all women have been abused. That is one in every three women you see. In some countries it is 70%.

The WHO says that risk factors for both intimate partner and sexual violence include: attitudes that are accepting of violence and gender inequality (perpetration and experience).

WHO goes on to say that to achieve lasting change, it is important to enact legislation and develop policies that: promote gender equality.

Except that it does not work to enact legislation to promote gender equality. The reason is that legislation has already been enacted by the Civil Rights Act of 1964, which EXCLUDED churches from having to treat people decently and fairly.

So listen to your pastor Sunday morning. Plan your Thanksgiving dinner. But if you are one of the three women who cannot sit down to dinner, or who cannot eat because of a sore jaw, it is time to do something. Contact your local women’s shelter, go to the authorities, or to your family. Tell your pastor. Make him think this Thanksgiving that he needs to speak out for women, instead of spending time speaking against women.

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Celebrate! Rejoice with us!

November 14, 2014, Christians for Biblical Equality Houston Chapter was honored by Houston Graduate School of Theology (HGST.edu) for our work for women’s equality. We are an official chapter of CBE, founded December 2011. I am one of the founding members.

Houston Graduate School of Theology had their first-ever annual congratulatory event for those who are making a difference in the lives of people (at least that is what I thought I heard Dr James Furr, the president of HGST say). They honored the women who helped found HGST 30 years ago with her husband. The next annual awards will be called the Delbert and Carol Vaughn award.  I had my picture made with Carol Vaughn.

The other groups honored for work with women was our group, CBE Houston; Her Call Ministries; and Metamorphosis.

The woman in the red jacket is a Church of Christ preaching minister and is the president of CBE Houston. My husband Don, who started me on this journey for women’s equality, is sitting in a chair. I am the one with the crown on my head (lights) and a beautiful pink pin given to me by someone very special.

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