Missing grace

We can’t change the world’s treatment of girls and women, but we can change ours. Over 275 girls were recently kidnapped and stoned in Nigeria by Boko Haram. We change by starting at home and raising up women and girls to full equality in the church and home.

We quit throwing word bombs at women. We quit holding seminars telling women they are equal-but. We change our seminaries to teach full equality instead of some made up term such as ‘biblical womanhood.’ We recognize grace for both men and women.

“I know you don’t like Thom Rainer, but listen to what he says about church bullies.” The truth is that I neither like nor dislike Thom Rainer, president of LifeWay Resources. I don’t know him.

What I do know is that he chooses books and literature for LifeWay Resources that speak out against equality for women in the church and home. What I do know is that he subscribes to wives submitting graciously to their husbands and that women cannot be pastors, as is indicated in the Baptist Faith and Message 2000.

Thom Rainer wrote the “Nine traits of church bullies” but he left off a Number 10, which would be: “They are often the pastors themselves. They preach, teach and post that women are equal-but.” I can’t hear you, Thom! Your words are clanging cymbals. You are missing grace.

I can’t hear John Piper, of Desiring God, when he says that Christians should go way beyond justice when I know what he has said about women and what he claims is their submissive role. I can’t hear you, John! Your words are clanging cymbals. You are missing grace.

I can’t hear Timothy Keller, pastor of Redeemer Presbyterian Church in New York. A few weeks ago, my pastor quoted Timothy Keller from the pulpit, but my heart was not listening because all I could think of was his book The Meaning of Marriage in which he says that women should be joyful in their God-given submissive role. I can’t hear you, Tim! Your words are clanging cymbals. You are missing grace.

I can’t hear Paige Patterson, president of Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary, when he tells me that he can’t spare a few minutes to speak with me about gender equality because “all such discussions take away from the time we might spend leading men and women to faith in Jesus Christ.” I am offering multitudes of harvesters who will help his men lead men and women to faith. But he doesn’t have time to even talk about their qualifications. I can’t hear you, Paige! Your words are clanging cymbals. You are missing grace.

I can’t hear you because you are not speaking the words of Jesus. I can’t hear you because you are not speaking the words of grace for all Christians, both men and women.

Will you join me in calling for grace by religious leaders for women?

About bwebaptistwomenforequality

Shirley Taylor writes with humor and common sense, challenging the church body to reclaim equality for Christian women.
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10 Responses to Missing grace

  1. Yes, we should quit throwing word bombs at women. We should quit holding seminars telling women they are equal-but. But we should also quit agreeing with men when they say that they are the image and glory of God. We should stand up and tell men that Jesus Christ is the image and glory of God as the Bible says. (2 Cor. 4: 3-4, Col. 1: 15, Rev. 21: 23) We need to give Jesus Christ the glory that is due Him and Him alone.


    • I can’t imagine how this male headship theology took hold in the last 30 years. It astounds me that women still buy into it. We all know that as humans we fail and to believe – really believe – that men have more grace than women, and are given more responsibility with the guarantee that they can do anything if they decide to do it, causes me great grief. You see, when a man is allowed to do anything because he is a man, and women are not, that means that women do not have complete grace.


  2. krwordgazer says:

    Hate to break it to Patterson, but one of the main reasons people today are resisting being led to Christ is because of the doctrine of male headship, which seems to them profoundly unjust and contradictory to Christian love. Patterson’s words to you, Shirley, were simply a silencing technique, explaining why you shouldn’t speak and he shouldn’t listen.


    • Yes, he wants to silence me. I am looking for him to make some great declaration now that I have stuck my nose into his tent. This is found on his page “Hunting the most dangerous game”:

      The first shot I made on a large lioness was from quite a distance. This magnificent feline disappeared into high grass identical to her own color. She awaited our approach. With trackers on each shoulder and other hunters thirty feet on each flank, almost breathlessly I walked point through the high grass, focused directly ahead, watching for any movement. My 500 Nitro Express double rifle was already on my shoulder, safety off, ready for instant response. When the charge came, time stood still. A flurry of action and this magnificent lioness lay at my feet. When I reached over to touch her, my heart broke into a race like a quarter horse breaking from the chute.


  3. Thomas Parker says:


    What all of these men fail to realize is they will give an account to God for the way they have treated women and denied women the opportunity to use their God given talents.


    • Thanks, Tom. They will give account for their actions. In light of today’s world and understanding of the gospel, there is no excuse for their teachings. They completely ignore Christ. I cannot imagine what they are taught in seminaries.


  4. jossduncan says:

    Very interesting to read!
    I would really appreciate it if you could take the time to look at my blog and comment on any thoughts or feelings you may have on various issues regarding domestic violence. It is part of my University degree and I get graded on the comments so I would really appreciate the support. Tomorrow is my hand in date so if you have the time to share your views I would love to hear them.
    This is the link to my blog, thanks! https://menwomenandviolence.wordpress.com


  5. Nancy says:

    “Grace” is a woman’s name, and women have to be silent in churches! So, isn’t it rather obvious why we are “Missing Grace”?


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