Ask any woman in your church how they feel excluded in church simply because they are women. You’ll probably get blank stares. Most women have not even thought about it. But now that you have put the idea into their heads, one of two things will happen. They will accept what you said, or they will reject it.
Now, don’t get too comfortable with either reaction. Neither position is the final word. We have just begun the process. You have started someone thinking.
Many women will say “women do all the work anyway” and then in the next breath, they will tell you that they don’t want to hear a woman preach. So, while it appeared that at first they agree with you, you can see that they don’t believe that women should be equal in the church or in the home, because they believe that males are superior to females. They have been taught this.
However, if they reject it outright, that is not necessary a cause for concern. That is a gut, knee-jerk instinct, simply parroting what they have heard or learned.
Now you are going to show them that what they have learned about men’s role and women’s roles in church does not work, because it is in the home where these things are played out.
For this week, I want you to engage people in the conversation of Christian women’s equality. Start with the NFL football player Ray Rice because most people have heard of that.
Be prepared by reading the following links, and I encourage you to read the book listed The End of Always by Randi Davenport.
Quote ESPN Hannah Storm: “I spent this week answering seemingly impossible questions about the league’s biggest stars. ‘Mom, why did he do that? Why isn’t he in jail? Why didn’t he get fired?” http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/09/14/hannah-storm-nfl_n_5818382.html
Then read what Russell Moore of the Southern Baptist Convention said about spousal abuse: http://www.russellmoore.com/2014/09/09/the-church-and-violence-against-women/
Quote Rev Moore: “We must teach from our pulpits, our Sunday school classes, and our Vacation Bible Schools that women are to be cherished, honored, and protected by men. This means we teach men to reject American playboy consumerism in light of a Judgment Seat at which they will give account for their care for their families. It means we explicitly tell the women in our congregations, “A man who hits you has surrendered his headship, and that is the business both of the civil state in enacting public justice and of this church in enacting church discipline.”
Ask: Why does a man have automatic headship over his wife when he says “I Do?” And if he has automatic headship, then how on earth can he surrender it? He can’t. If male headship is something that God gave him, then he cannot give it up.
There is NO scripture that says that husbands will give account for their care of their families at the judgment seat.
So we see pastors and the SBC making up new laws that are nowhere in the Bible. There is nothing that says a man can surrender his headship if he hits his wife. Nothing.
In fact, a commandment for male headship over a wife is not in the Bible. It is contrary to everything that Jesus said and did, and it even contradicts what the Apostle Paul said.
The End of Always is a true story based on records of an abusive marriage in 1907. Churches have not changed since then as we see from Moore’s statement, where he even talks about church discipline. The church has no discipline for abusive males, except praying for them. There is nothing in church by-laws that gives churches ANY authority over men.
Spend some time reading about wife abuse.
- Why I married my abuser (http://www.thefrisky.com/2014-09-09/why-i-married-my-abuser/?utm_source=huffingtonpost.com&utm_medium=referral&utm_campaign=pubexchange_facebook)
- The End of Always book by Randi Davenport (2014). This is a true story based on records of an abusive marriage in 1907.
Ask the question: “What do we tell our daughters?”