“I don’t agree with the title” was the response to my card I handed out which promoted my book Dethroning Male Headship.
This past weekend I was at Christian writer’s meeting. It was the first one I had attended and immediately I sensed that I was in the wrong camp. Before I left the meeting, I became a prize-winning author. I drew the lucky number to win the booby-prize which you can read about here.
“They should complement each other,” the woman went on to say. Of course that meant she was complementarian, not egalitarian, but her next words blew me away and I am afraid I was not quick enough on my response.
“Statistics show that when women take children to church, the children will most likely not keep attending, but when husbands take children to church, they will continue going to church. And children from broken homes will not go to church.”
Now where on earth does that fit into gender equality?
I wish I had been quick with my answer, but alas, I wasn’t.
I wish I had said that Egalitarian fathers take their kids to church, too.
I wish I had said that women seeking equality are not responsible for broken homes any more than women who are not seeking equality are responsible for keeping homes together.
I wish I had said that egalitarian women want husbands and fathers to their kids, but they just don’t want to be one of the kids.
I didn’t say those things because I didn’t think of them fast enough. In this struggle for equality we have to be prepared with a good answer to anything that is thrown our way which is presented as the reason that equality is not God’s plan.
Will you prepare yourself with the Word and with knowledge of gender equality so you can speak confidently about gender equality? Will you be quick in your response to those who seek to convince you that when men and women complement each other, it is always the woman who has to do the complementing?