Family values has a warm fuzzy sound, particularly on a cold February day. But it doesn’t sound so good when that is the excuse you are given as the reason the church won’t hire you when you are a 55 year old woman looking for a job caring for preschoolers in a Baptist church.
“Sorry we can’t hire you to watch our preschoolers because the senior pastor might have an issue with your husband not being involved in church.” My friend said that this is the first time she had been penalized for something that her husband does or does not do.
Family values! A loving marriage of 30 years and two grown children doesn’t count for family values, it seems. The 20 years that I have known her she has been involved in all phases of work in her church programs. But what counts is the back end of a husband sitting on a pew watching another man preach. I am not sure what kind of value that is, but I doubt that it is family values.
Family values always devalue women because they make the mother in the family submissive to the father of the family.
Two weeks ago I heard a young man tell a group that with the movement to get more men involved in church some of what we were talking about would not go over very well. Of course we were talking about women’s equality in churches.
So I asked the young man about women working in these churches as administrative assistants and financial administrators and even in the nursery. “If women are not supposed to work outside the home, who is the church supposed to hire to do their low-salary work?”
“Widows and divorcees,” he said.
So now we know the answer to how a 55 year old woman can work in a Baptist church on Sunday morning when her husband doesn’t attend church. She has got to get rid of him somehow! But what does that say about family values?
It’s time to pull the plug on this thinking! Will you join me in making real family values by valuing women and their work in church, whether or not their husbands ever set foot inside the door. Will you join me in speaking up for women’s equality because this women’s movement is every bit as important as the so-called men’s movement?