Male Headship is on my mind night and day. I am busy updating my book “Dethroning Male Headship. Because it doesn’t have a leg to stand on.” I have a publisher who will be publishing it (no, it is not me!).
In the two years since I wrote this little book, I have learned an awful lot from all of you, and some of this newfound knowledge will make its way inside the book.
God leads us in so many different directions.
It was August 24, 2008, that I first heard God’ s call to something. I was sitting in my Baptist church where I had attended each Sunday for 11 years. It was as clear as anything that I have ever heard “Your ministry here is through.” Not sure what was happening, I didn’t tell Don, and we went back to church again next week. This time the feeling was much greater and surer. As we walked to our car, I told Don that we had to start visiting other Baptist churches. He said he was thinking the same thing!
Thus began our journey, but we did not know it.
We visited other Baptist General Convention Baptist churches because I worked for BGCT for almost 15 years and would not even consider the Southern Baptists of Texas Convention (SBTC) churches which were far more prevalent in our area. We traveled distances to see what was going on in other church. Most worship services brought tears to my eyes as I was so burdened with about women’s ministry. I had been writing letters, telling my pastor, and everybody that women should be deacons, and that we were treating our women wrong in church, and now I was visiting other churches where I saw this was happening all around me.
In fact, it was in a large Baptist church nearby that I coined the phrase “the cold heart of the church” meaning the church by-laws that tell women they can’t serve as deacons.
In September 2008, we suffered a terrible hurricane and all those problems had to be dealt with. My newsletter “Open Letter to Baptists” was ready to be published by December, but I wanted Christmas to be over with, so it was published via email and sent to thousands of people on January 15, 2009.
A website, a blog, 2 conferences, a Demand for an Apology from the Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood later, I am having a book published!
God called me. For what amount, or for what little He called, I feel His hand in my life and in my work. I never expected even this much. All I wanted was to be able to walk into my church and not feel that my church held it against me that I was a woman.
Continue with me on this journey. We are not done yet!
How exciting! Congratulations on having your book published.
Thanks! When I read the book cold (after not reading it for 2 years) it sounded pretty good. But I am trying to make it easier for non-Baptists to understand, and also I have seen things differently in many places and am rewriting those spots.
What a story! Congratulations! If there’s something that’s get’s clearer for us every year, it’s that our action and participation in issues of justice are very important.
Without your work, Shirley, the ordination of women in Baptist churches will take even longer.
What a great role model you are!
Thank you. I don’t know where God will lead next, but I do know that along the way, He has sent such wonderful people to help me in this journey. Thank you for walking alongside.
May God use your book to bless many and lead them out of deception. http://biblicalpersonhood.wordpress.com/2012/08/08/what-the-man-should-be-the-spiritual-leader-did-to-me/
Thanks. I am trying to make the book relevant to non-Baptists. But I have to use lots of Baptist talk because they are the largest denomination and the perpetuator of this male headship. Danvers Statement and BF&M 2000 were dreamed up by them.