What is complementarianism? Mary Kassian was one of those who coined the word and this is what she says is the meaning of it:
A complementarian is a person who believes that God created male and female to reflect complementary truths about Jesus.That’s the bottom-line meaning of the word. Complementarians believe that males were designed to shine the spotlight on Christ’s relationship to the church (and the LORD God’s relationship to Christ) in a way that females cannot, and that females were designed to shine the spotlight on the Church’s relationship to Christ (and Christ’s relationship to the LORD God) in a way that males cannot.
Complementarians do not believe that men, as a group, are ranked higher than women. Men are not superior to women–women are not the “second sex.” Though men have a responsibility to exercise headship in their homes, and in the church family, Christ revolutionized the definition of what that means. Authority is not the right to rule—it’s the responsibility to serve. We rejected the term “hierarchicalism” because people associate it with an inherent, self-proclaimed right to rule.
I thank God that I was not born a woman, is the Jewish prayer. In other words, Jews claim the meaning is that women do not get the privilege or responsibility to serve God and the Jewish men are thanking God that God in His wisdom did not create their little embryo body female. I suppose the Jewish wife is praying (if she is allowed to pray) “I thank God that – what?” What is she going to thank God for? Is she going to say “Thank God that God made men to serve because I am unworthy, or unfit, or too busy to serve?” What the Jewish man is actually saying is exactly what we think he is saying: “You made me better than a woman and I can serve you while she can’t.”
Mary Kassian is saying the same thing when she says “Authority is not the right to rule – it’s the responsibility to serve.” In other words, Gentile Christians are now to be Jews in our thinking. Oops! What just flew out the window? Was it Galatians 3:28?
This woman who helped coin the word complementarianism goes on to say that men have the responsibility to exercise headship in their homes and in the church family, but she does not have a scripture one to back that up.
She goes on to say that they (this privileged few who coined the word) rejected hierarchicalism because people associate it with an inherent, self-proclaimed right to rule.
Now we know who wrote the Danvers Statement and the silly wording they use. Mary Kassian, homemaker, MCAOT was one of those women. Look back at that sentence. She has just told us that men have the responsibility to exercise headship in their homes and in the church even though the Bible scriptures say no such thing, and then she has the audacity to say that hierarchicalism can be thought of as being “self-proclaimed.”
I have news for her. Complementarianism is also self-proclaimed. That is why it promotes males selfs over female selfs.
I agree with her picture book “Complementarism for dummies.” Yes, Homemaker Mary Kassain, it is for dummies.
But 37,000 Southern Baptist Convention churches have bought into this flawed theology, and men are being told that they have authority over their wives, and preachers are preaching that women must submit, and women are giving up their new birth-right, because in 1987 a group of people devised a theology that won’t hold water.
If you don’t want to be a dummy, step over to the egalitarianism side. The side where men are men, and women are women, and they are both equal in the sight of God, in the church and in the home. Step over to the egalitarian side where Christ loved the church, both men and women, and gave himself for it. Step over to the egalitarian side where Christ and the Father are One, and men are not singled out to represent one side of God, and women are not relegated to represent the submission of the church to Christ.