While working for BGCT, one of the employees in the Dallas office had to leave her position and move with her husband several states away because he was the pastor and had been called to a new church. That is a familiar story with pastor’s wives. Many wives were school teachers and it seemed that they could move and find a job in the new city where they would be serving. A local pastor’s wife is a CPA and involved in a ministry dear to her heart and I imagine she prays every night that they will not be called elsewhere.
But what if the pastor is a woman?
My blog of the other day “Time for a change?” got the attention of someone and he clicked the ‘like’ button. So I trotted over to his blog to see who he was and why he might have liked this story. I still don’t know his name, but he is the spouse of a minister! He is on posting #3 which is called “I am a Paulian?” – married to the minister #3. Below is an except from his first post about this on January 18.
It’s just one of those things apparently, a sort of ‘Buy One, Get One Free’ deal where the wife or other one is there in a supporting role, like Robin to Batman or Kevin Bond to Harry Redknapp.
But there are problems, especially if you set on the journey and find that the scenery changes dramatically along route.
It is not as simple as someone training for a certain job while the other half leads their life.
For Christians the church and what goes on there is the most important thing about life on this earth.
So what to do if your marriage, faith, struggles, job, vocation, community, life all somehow become tangled up in what your wife does for a living, if your minister is your wife and your wife your minister?
Who is that person giving the sermon on a Sunday morning? Your wife or your minister?
How do you respond to the sermon?
Apparently he lives in Ireland and they are Presbyterians. I got a kick out of this and I hope you will too, as we look at the situation from the male spouse of a woman pastor.
Across the water, we will join hands as we welcome women to the ministry. Will you pray with me that someday we don’t just find this an amusing story, and that men and women both answer our Lord’s calling and work together in the best way they can for the Kingdom?