These past three years I have heard more about a husband’s role and a wife’s role in a marriage than I could ever have imagined. When I began the ministry of women’s equality, all I knew was that in my church a woman could not be a deacon. I knew that it was wrong and I was determined to speak out about it. My eyes have been opened! I know now that complementarians think that a husband is the only one with a leadership role in the marriage and that the wife’s role is clean the house and raise his kids.
Fifty years ago when Don and I got married – yes, we are celebrating our 50th wedding anniversary tomorrow – I never heard of such nonsense. My father helped my mother cook, can foods for the winter, and do the laundry. My mother helped him in the fields, picked cotton, and raised 8 kids. They both worked hard feeding and caring for their family. I thought all families were like that.
My husband didn’t know how to cook! He still doesn’t. During the next 50 years I learned that it is not the division of household chores that make a marriage.
After I started working for Baptist General Convention of Texas, Don convinced me that women were not being treated fairly in the Baptist church and he has been my most vocal supporter in this ministry. He is helping me with the conference April 27-28, 2012. (Read more about it by clicking on the top menu).
Today I am not going to complain. I am just going to enjoy my husband, our marriage, and our two sons. Come back Friday and I will tell you about a 29 year old mega church pastor who has a lot to learn about women and God.