Think like a man – time to throw a Hail Mary

Women, it is time to throw a Hail Mary.  It is time to win this game. If you can’t throw one for yourselves, then throw one for the team.

There was only 24 seconds to go in the playoff game between the Dallas Cowboys and the Minnesota Vikings.  The Cowboys were down 14-10, and they were going to lose the game unless something happened. Roger Staubach closed his eyes, said a Hail Mary, and threw the ball.

The pastor of Big Baptist Church was a man who I respected and liked to hear preach.  But he insulted me and he insulted you in our conversation.  I didn’t have the nerve – I don’t think like a man – to tell him that.

He said, “You are not what they think you are.  You don’t look like a pushy woman, or some feminist broad.”  Well, I wasn’t then, but I am now.  A pushy woman, that is.  A little broad, too, but we won’t go into that.

According to an article in Woman’s Day, women don’t think like men, but Beth Levine says that we should begin thinking like men and we could reap the rewards.  She gives the example of a how men are different in the workplace.  They don’t fear clashes.  It’s just business to them.  Women, on the other hand, value harmony and relationships. If someone disagrees with a women, the woman is apt to think that she is being attacked, and that is what keeps women away from conflicts.

She gives another example of how men and women think differently.  Men ask for what they want.  Women are uncomfortable asking for things for themselves. But, she says, women are comfortable asking for things for others.  She said to “ask yourself, If this were my sister or best friend, how would I present her case?”

As I read this, I realized that women are not asking for equality.  Women are just sitting back and hoping that someone sees them in the back of the room, and maybe – pretty please – they will allow us on the team some day.  If we are good, and don’t make any waves, and don’t cause any problems.

Women, it is time to throw a Hail Mary.  It is time to win this game. If you can’t throw one for yourselves, then throw one for the team.

(Note to my readers: What I have discovered is that when another site picks up my blog, it quotes the opening sentences.  The closing sentences are more important than the opening sentences, so you find me starting the blog with the closing challenge.)

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Shirley Taylor writes with humor and common sense, challenging the church body to reclaim equality for Christian women.
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10 Responses to Think like a man – time to throw a Hail Mary

  1. boatrocker says:

    “According to an article in Woman’s Day, women don’t think like men”
    I’m glad I don’t get either theology or psychology from Women’s Day. Or romance novels. Or CBMW.

    I have observed for years that in message boards where people’s gender is not always clear, you cannot tell male from female. Many men write “softly” and gently, and many women write logically and aggressively. We are not two separate species but only male and female of the same species; we are people, and there is much more difference in personality etc. among a gender than between them. And in order for any trait to be universal to a given class of people, it cannot have a single exception, in all cultures and for all time. Clearly these alleged “think like a” claims fail the test.

    So what women need is not to first assume the pop psyche propaganda and then try to make themselves into some contrived personality profile, but to be who we are and stop trying to stuff ourselves into other people’s molds.


    • Obviously, thinking like a woman hasn’t gotten us very far. So if we throw a few Hail Marys, there might be somebody out there to catch it. In my opinion, and it is only my opinion, it will be the men who will carry us over the goal line. I have found far more men who are for women’s equality than I have found women in this 3 year mission. Dr. Michael Bell of BGCT asked me what was the most surprising thing had I found in working for women’s equality. He said that he was most surprised that it was the women themselves who were against it. I concur.


      • boatrocker says:

        My point was that there is no such thing as “think like a man/woman”, but just “think”.

        But just as we’d not say “think like a slave owner” to those slaves who were happy and content to be slaves, so now we must not “think like a male supremacist” to women who are happy and content to be followers. The tactic of thinking like oppressors is self-defeating because it means we have adopted their rules of the game and their foundational presumptions: that men and women are so very different instead of so very alike. We have already lost the war as long as we think like oppressors.

        We are to have “the mind of Christ”, not of man.


  2. TL says:

    Good challenge. And interesting discovery on the opening sentence being what is picked up on the net searches.

    As for male thinking and female thinking. I don’t think men and women ‘think’ differently the way it is often suggested. While it is true that our brains process things differently to a small degree, it does not have the effect we are seeing. What we are seeing is the result of hundreds of years of female oppression. It is oppression in general, abusive treatment, male preferences and oppressive male dominance that has left women trying other means of communication.

    What we need to change is our willingness to act and behave like we are as fully human and fully valuable as any man. Difference is not a bad thing. It does not make us less than as a whole even when some individual parts are different.


    • In all the blogs that I have looked at that promote women’s equality, none of them ask for a commitment. None of them challenge the women or the men to get up, get out, and speak out. They simply lay out their case for women’s equality – and they are eloquent cases. But they let it lie and do not challenge. My blog challenges every reader to do something. I would like to see all of your blogs challenge readers to do something for equality. Jesus told us “You have not because you ask not.” I am not sure it applies here, but I am willing to give it a chance.


  3. boatrocker says:

    I challenge people all the time. My blog is not well-connected, so whatever I say there pretty much stays there. I’d mostly be exhorting an empty room. Instead, I go to the blogs and boards; I fight in the trenches of life, wherever male supremacy is being discussed or presumed. I use my and other blogs as resources for further reading. It’s the approach that makes the most sense to me.


  4. Mabel says:

    I was in Detroit last weekend and had the opportunity to talk to a pastor, who was a groomsman in my daughter’s wedding. We were eating lunch and somehow the gender issue came out. He had never studied the issue and may have thought that he supports women. He is a very very easy going and genuinely nice person. I challenged him on many points in our discussion, gave him my thoughts and my arguments. I spread the equality gospel to the very best of my ability to a man willing to listen. In parting, I gave him the names of 3 books, even tho’ there are many more. He promised he will read Philip Payne’s Man and Woman One in Christ Book. I listened to his senior pastor’s sermon and even tho’ the gender position was never mentioned, when I heard “hermeneutic gymnastics” , I knew where that point comes from. I asked this pastor friend of my son-in-law’s and confirmed that his church does not ordain women. I explained what I thought of that position and why. I know it was the FIRST TIME this nice man heard the egalitarian position. I think I have done my gender evangelism work, and to a pastor of a 600 people church. We all must act in our various capacity, some by talking to people, some by writing on blogs. We must seek to influence others to change their way of thinking. It is only after their thinking is changed that resulting actions will follow.


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