Do women have a victim complex?

Are women victims?  You wouldn’t think so.  Most women sitting in church don’t think so.  And most men don’t even give it a thought.

If you asked the person sitting next to you in the pew this Sunday if women are victims of the church leadership system, most would look at you as if you had two heads.  You might get some derogatory remark such as  the women do all the work.  That is a perception that is not a true statement in all churches, as I have found that many men volunteer.

Is it possible that women have a victim complex?

We know that women can’t serve as a deacon in some churches.  We know that the collection plate can be passed only by a deacon, and we know that the titles that women have for certain positions in the church reflect unspoken gender roles.

Is there any paid or unpaid position in your church that a man absolutely cannot be considered for?  What about the nursery?  Is there anything written down that says a man cannot be considered for a certain position in your church? 

If there is any position in your church that is off-limits as stated by your church By-laws, what is the reason for it?  Is it based on Scripture, or on cultural and societal circumstances?

When a Baptist church adopts the Baptist Faith and Message 2000, they agree to follow its written word.  In that written word, it says that a woman cannot be a pastor.  It does not say a woman cannot be a deacon, but 99.9 percent of churches that adopt the BF&M 2000 will have written in its own church By-laws the stipulation that a woman cannot be a deacon. 

Only Baptist churches adopt the BF&M 2000, so if your church is not a Baptist church, why should you care about this?  The answer to that is that the SBC and other denominations have found the same scriptures to limit women in church.  Your denomination will have similar By-laws and documents.  Some of these documents will limit women’s leadership position in that church.

Does the Bible limit women’s place in spreading the gospel?  Should women be rejoicing in what they can do, and not dwell on what they cannot do?

Next week we will look at a series of letters written by one of this blog’s regular readers.  It is not about the victim complex, but is about leadership positions given to women in the church. The letters are to her pastor and are pointing to a particular situation that has arisen in their church.  You won’t want to miss this.

About bwebaptistwomenforequality

Shirley Taylor writes with humor and common sense, challenging the church body to reclaim equality for Christian women.
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2 Responses to Do women have a victim complex?

  1. Lydia says:

    I would not exactly call it a victim complex but it is something similar. Just this weekend, a very educated Christian women told me that women have an inherent propensity to be gossips. She thought this is why scripture kept them out of church leadership.

    She really believed this. I asked her why she did not think the Cross was enough to change this “inherent” problem in women. She had no answer. I also reminded her that Adam sinned with his eyes wide open on purpose and why that should give men more credibility as “leaders”. Again, no answer.

    It is what she has been taught. To think of women in general in that way. Think historically…why would women be thought of as gossips? Because they discussed things with each other they had little information on since they had no seats at tables reserved for men only. It was a way of gaining information and sharing information.


  2. KR Wordgazer says:

    It’s not a victim complex to realistically assess whether you can continue to expect the same treatment you’ve been enduring since civilization began.


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