The 2nd part of your question.
Pastor, you can’t have it both ways. You say that “God sent a helper, the Holy Spirit and that that helper is also far superior and above me.” But according to the first part of your paragraph, (see Authority – not a servant attitude – Part 1 of 2) the Holy Spirit is not very far superior to you because you say that just by obeying your leadership, your congregation can have greater rewards, have more influence, be more important, and receive greater rewards in Heaven. What does that leave the Holy Spirit to do?
I am aghast at the arrogance in your remarks. That also means that you have put another layer between a woman and God. The order now goes this way: God, Pastor, husband, woman. And you want women to believe that you are not denigrating her by calling her a helper? God, forbid such audacity!
Yes, Pastor, you are misreading the scriptures. There can be no correct interpretation that gives you such authority over and men and women. Look to Jesus.
In the Parable of the Workers in the Vineyard, the workers who had been hired early in the day expected to receive more rewards. But in Matt. 20:10-16, Jesus told them they would all receive the same reward. Notice he didn’t mention obedience to the caretaker of the vineyard.
The priesthood of the Levites ended with the destruction of the Temple, and all believers in Christ became priests. Basic Baptist belief is priesthood of the believer. Though some teach “priesthood of the husband.”
Pastor, you are very concerned about the roles God has given people, much like central casting in a play. That is Calvinism! I am not a Calvinist and will have no part in supporting such an idea. If I were a Calvinist, I would not send money to the mission field, nor give money to my church to promote the spread of the gospel, as it would have already been ordained which people would respond, and which people would be the preachers.
Regarding the ceremonial cleansing laws for women after giving birth to boys and girls. Your question of “would it automatically make God unjust if he limited the pastorate to women” does not have any bearing in our discussion. Why would God limit the pastorate to either a man or a woman? Your equation does not make sense here. Actually, those laws of cleansing after the birth of a child could not have been so important after all, as Jesus did away with it all when he came. He made a girl baby equal in the sight of God and man. And you and I are the beneficiaries of that.
To sum this up. We are both Baptists and as history shows, Baptists disagree on many things. I can see that you and I are in disagreement regarding the superiority of pastors, and of the authority of men in general. We have a disagreement regarding predestination as Calvinists believe.
But, we have a faith in Jesus Christ, a love for our fellowman (fellowwomen?). I don’t doubt your faith, even though I am not in agreement with certain aspects of it. (end of letter).
This Pastor was a graduate of Bob Jones University, which is described as a very conservative school. However, conservative doesn’t describe this Pastor’s beliefs. Be sure of who you bring into your church. Ask the hard questions. Find out what some pastors believe.