The next post will be January 3, 2011. Please come back and be ready for a new year for equality. You need some time off to refresh yourselves, and I do, too.
Merry Christmas to you all.
Posted December 15, 2010.
Let’s see what Jesus had to say about marriage. Did you know that it was only the men who asked Jesus about marriage, and divorce? The women never asked Jesus about marriage or divorce.
Look at Mark 10:2. They asked Jesus if it was all right for a man to divorce his wife.
Jesus said Moses permitted it because of the hardness of their hearts. He also said that they completely misunderstood marriage. That marriage was to be between a man and his wife. The husband would leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. It appeared that these men were more interested in getting out of a marriage than in keeping a marriage. Was the dowry part of it? Would their money be returned if they got out of a marriage?
Then Jesus walked away and went into a house as if the conversation was over.
But his disciples were interested this time. They wanted to hear the rest of the story. So they asked him about it.
You can almost hear Jesus sigh. You can almost see him shake his head. Because what he is going to say is not what they want to hear. Remember it was the men who were asking about divorce.
Jesus told them all that if any man divorced his wife and married another woman, that he commits adultery against her. Jesus put the blame on the man. He blamed him because of his sin and because he caused his wife to sin. That was a new wrinkle.
Then Jesus brings in equality. He says that ‘you men think you are the only ones who can divorce your spouse. But I tell you that the woman can divorce you, and if she does, and if she married another man, she commits adultery.’
Equality. What is sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander.
I love this passage. It is a difficult passage. It appears to be very hard against divorce. I believe that divorce is the only solution for many marriages. There are a bunch of men that I would have divorced if I had been unfortunate enough to marry them, and I am sure they would say likewise.
I don’t know exactly what this passage means, and I don’t know how you can commit adultery when your law already allows polygamy. There is a lot of mystery here in this scripture.
I don’t love this passage because of the hard stance Jesus appears to take about divorce. What I love is that he tells all the men that the woman can divorce them, too, and cause them to commit adultery. Women who divorce their husbands make them guilty of adultery, just like the women themselves have been made guilty of adultery by their husbands.
I don’t understand everything, or maybe I don’t even understand very much about it. But this is one of my favorite scriptures on Equality spoken by Jesus.
The women never asked about marriage and divorce, but Jesus spoke about her part in it anyway.