This post is written by Guest Writer – Don Taylor
Why not a partnership? Does a marriage need a boss ? Well, sometimes yes, and most of the time, no.
Some husbands make very poor leaders. They make bad decisions and are clueless in some areas. They can become dictatorial just because they can. Their church says they can.
There are some women who rule the household with an iron hand. They married a weak indecisive man and they took control by default.
My father was the boss in our family until he overspent his income and got us into deep financial trouble. My mom told me that we were close to losing our home. So she told my father that she would go back to work and get us out of the financial problems on the condition that she would control the money from then on. Dad was desperate, so he agreed. After this, their marriage was more of a partnership.
I started my married life thinking that I was the boss. Not abusive, but still I was in control. But, I hated to keep track of money. I was not a spender like my dad, and we were never in a financial bind. My wife was good with managing money and that became her responsibility. We do not make important decisions without discussion and coming to an agreement together.
So, why not base a marriage on the strengths of each partner rather than on a “my way” basis. Husbands and wives should share responsibilities. By respecting each other and utilizing the talents they share, it creates an atmosphere of trust and mutual respect. Respect is a very important component of love. A marriage of shared leadership and responsibilities has a much better chance of succeeding happily than the old “King of the household” attitude.
(One of the ways husbands ‘lord’ it over their wives is by controlling the family money.)