Dr. Al Mohler wrote a blog called “Women and Children First” in which he claimed that women should desire to go back to the days of the Titanic when the women and children were told to get in the lifeboats first. He seems to think that today’s men would be willing to do that, but women are holding them back from being the men they want to be.
Dr. Mohler knows that these same men write letters to women who are seeking equality, using the most hateful, unloving, lying characterizations of women that can come out of a Christian’s mouth.
If men like Dr. Mohler don’t have the guts to stand up and tell these men who verbally abuse Christian women to cut it out, then what makes him think that these men will honor women and put women and children in the lifeboat first? He is living in make-believe land.
It’s not that we can’t take it. We’ve heard worse. It harms the gospel of Christ when these Christian men rant and rave in this most ungodly manner toward women. They don’t talk to men like this. Suppose a man wrote a letter speaking up for women’s equality. Suppose he gets a letter from a man hating women’s equality. The hater would attack the women the first man was speaking up for, and would not attack the man who was speaking up for women.
Following are two letters I received last Wednesday, July 14. The first is in response to this series. The second letter is the first of a series of comments you can read at the end of Recipe for Danvers Stew. Their letters are in bold.
1. But Mohler isn’t doing that here. And Scripture is clear that while there is an established authoritative structure for the home, husbands are to submit to their wives as Christ loved his church and gave (submitted himself completely and sacrificially) himself up for her. This is biblical picture is very different than your portrayal of what Mohler actually teaches and believes.
If Dr. Al Mohler believes that husbands are to “submit to their wives as Christ loved his church”, he has kept it a secret.
About the next letter. I wonder if Dr. Al Mohler would think this man would say “Women and Children first” and put them in the lifeboats and give his own life for them. This is an example of male headship letters that women get by men who are angry that we are standing up to them.
2. I just wonder how many of you women are divorced and lonely because you can’t stand not wearing the pants in the family, or wondering why there shouldn’t be women pastors (always have to have the lead role). You just can’t wait for men to post on here so you can blast them and have 20 other divorced, lonely women sitting here having an all night man bashing party. And you call that loving? You’re no different from the rest of the women in the world. Women like you think your the godliest thing to grace this earth apart from Jesus, yet can’t comprehend that this is the way God made things to be. Who says we have to understand every excruciating detail?
Where did this man come up with these ideas? He has no idea of what kind of woman I am. Actually, my husband and I have been married 49 years, and where he gets the idea that I think that I am the godliest thing to grace this earth apart from Jesus, is downright insulting. Who taught him to call a woman a ‘thing.’ Do you see any grace and love toward another human being in this letter?
We (men) can’t have babies but you don’t see us going around demanding equality and that God discriminates against men because we can’t have the same role as women.
You sit here and stereotype every male unless they are sheepish and agree with you on every point. The only thing the man stated out of place was “Someone has to serve (Mk. 10:45). That was stupid and I apologize for men on behalf of him, but by the same token, he was very much right about a lot of things we have to accept. I just think you can’t stand your husbands wearing the pants in the family and it eats you up.
That’s what God meant by the woman’s desire is for the man, but he shall rule over her. The only other place this “desire” concept is mentioned in Gen. 4:7 where sin’s desire is to master us, but we must master it. In the same way, women (such as egalitarians) desire to master their husbands, but we are to make sure that that doesn’t happen. Do you want to see what happens to someone who gives women the rule? Take a look at 1 Kings 11 and see the end of Solomon’s life, and why he would even go to the extreme of sacrificing his offspring to Molech? Because he gave in to his wives and didn’t have a backbone to stand for the Lord.
Power, authority, lovers of themselves (as Paul would say).
Are Dr. Al Mohler, the Council on Biblical Manhood and Biblical Womanhood, the Southern Baptist Convention, non-denominationals, evangelicals, proud of their influence and of the male headship men who send letters like these to Christian women?
If they are not proud of these kinds of letters, let them stand up and say so. Let them show some true Male Headship.
If you are tired of being pushed out of the lifeboat, please join us at Seneca Falls 2 Evangelical Christian Women’s Right Convention in Orlando, Florida, on July 24, 2010.