Husbands turn the Trinity into a quartet, Part 2

Why this is important

Male headship, male covering, male leadership, Patriarchy is all the rage right now.  It is everywhere on the internet and is being taught by Vision Forum, Council on Biblical Manhood and Biblical Womanhood, John MacArthur, Charles Stanley, John Piper, Wayne Grudem, Al Mohler, the Southern Baptist Convention, many Evangelical churches, and non-denominational churches.

It is taking hold in England according to Rev David Warnock, Methodist minister in Northampton, England, who wrote “It is a worry for me as some UK Christians are very influenced by US conservative evangelicals and are trying to import their “complementarian” views.” 

Don’t be too sure that your church won’t start preaching this theology. Or your neighbors might try to convince you of this false doctrine.

Jocelyn Andersen, author of Woman this is WAR! says that it has become mainstream and that many churches are accepting this.  You have to wonder why anybody is willing to accept a new theology.

Complementarian means that women have certain roles to play in the home and in the church, while the husband is the leader over her.

It is not just a view.  It is false doctrine, it belittles Christ, borders on idolatry of man, and subjugates one half of the world’s population.

Women are being taught this in such books as “Me? Obey Him?” by Elizabeth Rice Handford.  This book has sold a half million books and is promoted as being the perfect gift to give brides before they marry.  Half a million women reading this crap, and there are many more books besides this one, found in public and church libraries, and bookstores.  Conferences are being held by gleeful silly women who are ready to turn over the choice of what to wear to their husbands. (See the book Quiverfull).

What is not said, but what is taught, is that upon marriage, a man who was just an imperfect human being before the marriage ceremony, now becomes a god to be obeyed, worshiped, and who is given his own little kingdom which will consist of his wife and his daughters and the sons until they marry.  Read the Vision Forum’s “Father and his older children.”  This can be found on the internet.

Both sons and daughters are under the command of their fathers as long as they are under his roof or otherwise the recipients of his provision and protection. Fathers release sons from their jurisdiction to undertake a vocation, prepare a home, and take a wife. Until she is given in marriage, a daughter continues under her father’s authority and protection. Even after leaving their father’s house, children should honor their parents by seeking their counsel and blessing throughout their lives.

That is why it is important to understand this theology.  It is pervasive.  Al Mohler, president of Southern Baptist Theological Seminary in Louisville, Kentucky, and the recognized spokesman for all things Southern Baptists, wrote an article called “Women and Children First” which tells women that they are the losers when they seek equality.  That we should go back to the time when men would give their lives for their wives, such as when the Titanic sank.  Sounds good, but it won’t fly.  It is patriarchy at its worst. 

How are you going to convince men to give up their lives for their wife?  Why should they?  The wife is dispensable, he is the god.

What Al Mohler doesn’t understand is that women have always given their own lives to birth their children.  Men have never been put to that test, and to suggest that men are more noble than women is foolish.

This is a good time to re-read First Commandment:

Exodus 20: 1-5 “I am the Lord your God, who rescued you from slavery in Egypt. Do not worship any other gods besides me. Do not make idols of any kind, whether in the shape of birds or animals or fish. You must never worship or bow down to them, for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God who will not share your affection with any other god!”

Join us in Orlando, Florida, on July 24, 2010, at the Seneca Falls 2 Evangelical Women’s Right Convention.

 

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Shirley Taylor writes with humor and common sense, challenging the church body to reclaim equality for Christian women.
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7 Responses to Husbands turn the Trinity into a quartet, Part 2

  1. Brad says:

    “Men have never been put to that test, and to suggest that men are more noble than women is foolish.”

    But Mohler isn’t doing that here. And Scripture is clear that while there is an established authoritative structure for the home, husbands are to submit to their wives as Christ loved his church and gave (submitted himself completely and sacrificially) himself up for her. This is biblical picture is very different than your portrayal of what Mohler actually teaches and believes.

    God bless.

    Brad

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    • Brad, thank you so much for this comment. I hope you keep reading, because you may see that there is not an established authoritative structure for the home. I know what Dr. Mohler believes.

      What the Apostle Paul actually said is that just as the husband bought his wife, and she is now his property, that is how we are to see Christ and the church. That was then. Until 1964 women in America had very few rights in the legal structure of the courts. That has changed.

      Paul was not saying that it was the ideal way. He was simply saying it was “the way” it was done in that day and to look upon this as an example of how Christ loves bought and loves the church. In the middle of this, Paul realizes that husbands don’t always love their wives, so he threw in that about loving your wife and not beating her.

      Thank you for reading. And thank you for commenting.

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    • territippins says:

      Brad, Scripture is clear that there is an established authoritative structure for the home. Well, if it was so ‘clear’ there would be no debate. And please give us the passages where the word ‘authority’ is used in reference to the husband and wife relationship.

      Please explain for me how the constant imposition of a husbands preferences over and sometimes against the will of his wife can be viewed as a sacrifice on his part?

      You say husbands are to be submitted to thier wives but, how is that ‘really’ possible if one clings to a chain-of-command philosophy?

      I’m just sayin………

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  2. Kristen says:

    Shirley, I think Paul was also trying to interject a new sense of spiritual unity into marriages that were “in Christ” (which is what the book of Ephesians focuses on– our state of being “in Christ.”) The head-body metaphor is one of unity, not of authority. And the actions of Christ that the husband is told to emulate, are actions of giving, self-sacrifice, and submission even to death. The husband is not told to exercise authority as Christ does– but only to give himself, to nurture and care as Christ does.

    Yes, the cultural state of husbandly authority over the wife was in view– but Christians are, in effect, told to transcend this worldly structure. The husband was to lay down his privilege and raise his wife up to be glorious beside him, just as Christ raised up the church.

    I totally agree that we must not conflate the cultures of the Bible with the teachings of the Bible. There is no indication that the “established authority structure” of that day was the eternal will of God. But the Christian ideal of spiritual unity and mutual submission within marriage, remains to this day.

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  3. territippins says:

    Women are being taught this in such books as “Me? Obey Him?” by Elizabeth Rice Handford. This book has sold a half million books and is promoted as being the perfect gift to give brides before they marry. Half a million women reading this crap, and there are many more books besides this one, found in public and church libraries, and bookstores. Conferences are being held by gleeful silly women who are ready to turn over the choice of what to wear to their husbands. (See the book Quiverfull).

    I actually had that book (Me? Obey Him?). I think I read about 20 pages and promptly throwed it in the garbage. Yes, passing books like the one mentioned to new brides is the way to go……get them early. A new bride will easily accept this type (complimentarian) marriage based on the word of others. As she is a clean marriage palate on which others can paint. She innocently and willingly accepts a philosophy about marriage, and her place in it, without these ideas ever being put through any sort of test.

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  4. Lydia says:

    Everybody wants a formula, roles and rules. That is why Islam is so attractive to so many and is growing fast. Same for Mormonism. All the comps have done is introduced a formula with a plastic fish slapped on it. People love this. It makes them feel Holy.

    However, abiding in Christ and being led by the Holy Spirit is a whole different thing. And a wife cannot have that if she is obeying a human who is acting as her Holy Spirit for her.

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    • Welcome, Lydia! We women must begin speaking out. There are many, many wonderful men who are pulling for us, but so far, we have not been pulling for ourselves. We hope to change that at the Seneca Falls 2 conference in Orlando next weekend. If you are unable to join us, please let others know that there is a group of women who are determined to do something.

      Again, welcome. Please contine to read and make a comment.

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