June is traditionally thought of as being the month for weddings.
When my husband and I got married so many years ago, the pastor said that some brides wear the veil over their face and then the husband lifts the veil from their face after the vows. Only 18 years old, and not at all wise to the ways of the world, I thought it was the thing to do. So we did.
It has just been in the past few years that I know the significance of it, and I would never advise a bride to wear any kind of veil at her wedding. She is not a commodity. She is not her father’s possession to be given over to her husband. We have softened the words today and say “her mother and I do” but the origination of that can’t be changed.
Look at what a pastor wrote me about marriages.
Because a child is to submit to parents a girl is to submit to the authority of her father until she is given to her husband in marriage. This is the picture given in the traditional wedding ceremony where the father of the bride walks the girl down the isle and says in answer to the question “who gives this woman to be married to this man” “her mother and I do.” They are simply playing out the role of authority over the child being transferred to the husband.
My response to him was that Jesus did not teach that. He replied: While Jesus may not have ever said so specifically in the scriptures, Paul certainly did teach this. I have no reason to believe that Paul’s teachings are contrary to Jesus’ teachings as both were equally inspired by the Holy Spirit of God. Of course ultimately, if a husband or father were to demand that a child or wife do something that goes against the scripture or God’s will, the Headship of Christ would certainly prevail over the headship of a parent or husband.
Did you notice that he said the “child” is being transferred to the husband? She is not even called a woman, and is getting married, and in this marriage she is to remain a child – now a child of her husband. What if she is 30 years old?
He says a child is to submit to the parents, but as we know, that only applies to girl children.
But it gets stupider and stupider. He says that if a husband or father demands a child, or his wife, to do something that goes against scripture or God’s will, in that one case, he is superseded by the headship of Christ.
So now the child, or the wife, is to sit in judgment of the father/husband, and determine if he has the authority or if Christ does!
Doesn’t the Male Headship husband or father know if he is asking her to sin? Can’t he figure that out himself?
Here we have a woman that is treated as if she is still a child, and she must be the one to decide if her husband or father is asking her to commit a sin. Wouldn’t that be giving her “authority” over a man?
Are you ready to make a change?
Are you ready to speak out for yourself and for women?