Five restrictions against women

You sat in church Sunday.  Your pastor didn’t preach on Male Headship. Your pastor didn’t tell you that you had to submit to your husband. Your pastor didn’t tell you that you could not ever be a deacon because you are a woman.  Your pastor didn’t mention that you couldn’t be ordained a preacher in your church. Your pastor didn’t tell you that the men of the church had full fellowship in the church, but you do not.

He didn’t have to.

If you were sitting in a Southern Baptist church, the words are written in the church by-laws. 

The church by-laws are the cold heart of the church.  Each church uses its own words, but when the by-laws say that the qualifications of a deacon are found in 1 Timothy 3, your church is telling you these five things:

  1. Your husband is the head of his wife because the scriptures say “Now I want you to realize the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God” – even though this scripture makes MAN DIVINE we use it against women. The scripture actually says “Now I want you to realize the head of every man is Christ (remember the illustration that I gave you about how the man is the head of the woman in the marriage) and the head of Christ is God.” Man is not divine.  Only a Divine God can be head of a woman.
  2. You can’t be a deacon because you can’t be the husband of one wife – even though the scriptures mean that a deacon should not be married to more than one wife at a time (like the Jews, the Muslims, and many Mormons .  ( 1 Timothy 3)
  3. Male Headship means that women must submit to their husbands – the husband becomes little  gods since he is between a woman and God.  Remember man is not divine. Submission makes a woman second-class.  Men are never told by the church to submit.
  4. The Baptist Faith and Message 2000 adopted by the Southern Baptist Convention tells every church member that the office of pastor is limited to men.  Even though it does not specify the office of deacon, there is not a SBC church that has a woman deacon that uses the Baptist Faith and Message 2000.
  5. Women do not have full fellowship in a Southern Baptist church because they are restricted against holding certain offices simply because they were born a woman.

Southern Baptist churches that are also affiliated with the Cooperative Baptist Fellowship generally have in their by-laws these restrictions against women.

Southern Baptist churches that have the Baptist Faith and Message 1963 as their guide generally have in their by-laws these restrictions against women.

Most women do not want to be a deacon, just as most men do not.  Most women have never felt called to preach, just as most men have not.

I want to be able to walk into my church and not feel that my church holds it against me that I am a woman.

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Shirley Taylor writes with humor and common sense, challenging the church body to reclaim equality for Christian women.
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8 Responses to Five restrictions against women

  1. territippins says:

    I have been in the Holiness Pentecostal Denomination all my life (42 years). And I have noticed the slow reversal from what seemed like freedom for women (to me at least) in these denominations to a more restrictive stance. You would think the mentality of being free to move as the Spirit moves would be a continuum (esp. in pentecostal chruches) But, the Spirit that I seen flow in my youth has become nothing more that a trickle. The gift of Prophesy bestowed upon women was never negated (at least in the churches I attended) but leadership positions sure were. The problem in my denomination is that women alerady led and influenced they just were not given any titles. You would have some that would say, “You don’t need a title or recognition, God will reward you for your service.” It is easy to make a statement like that to a woman, as thier labor has often been for free anyway, right? Women have been trained to believe that taking credit or claiming what God has given you (a gift, calling, talent, etc.) is pride. Women have to believe and accept that God can work through them the same as He works through men………..and it ain’t easy!


  2. Kristen says:

    Oh yes. Many men are very good at rebuking women for wanting the titles and recognition that they themselves love. “Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, because you love the best seats in the synogogues, and being called ‘Rabbi’!” They should remove the logs in their own eyes before trying to take the speck out of the hard-working woman’s.


  3. Latimer the Cat says:

    It’s amazing to see the degree that the judaio-masonic Femsheviks have subverted the Baptist churches and any semblance of scriptural adherence.


  4. Kristen says:

    If you attack and name-call, you never have to actually consider the arguments on their own merits.

    Convenient, isn’t it?


    • I had a friend tell me that her pastor would never say anything “like that” about women from the pulpit. Well, I happen to know her pastor and know that he would not. But, by keeping silent, he is part of the problem, and his church is affiliated with the SBC, and these are their beliefs.

      Thanks for your comments.


  5. Nancy says:

    Paul also said that slaves should obey their masters. What happened there? Were those people who participated in the Underground Railroad disobeying a command? Was the Emancipation Proclaimation a sin?
    If women can’t be granted freedom, why should the slaves? Southern Baptists supported slavery.
    Oh, women aren’t allowed to speak at our church business meetings. Church business is none of our business, yet they still call us members and take our tithe money!


    • Thanks for writing. It is time women got fed up with these rules – which Jesus never even hinted at, much less, put into place. Jesus never denied women anything based on their being women, and we cannot in good stewardship of the gospel, do so either. I encourage you to speak up. Write a letter to your pastor. learn all you can about women’s equality. Check out my website which lists many books supporting women’s equality in church and home. Keep learning and writing. Thank you.


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